Nicole Vanzuidam, Ma, Lmft
Wednesday, August 5, 2026
We learn emotion long before we ever speak a word. As children, we watch how the adults around us express feelings, how they handle stress, how they repair conflict, and how they reach for comfort or don’t. We most commonly absorb the emotional habits of the people that raise us. These early experiences shape our developing attachment patterns and become the emotional “language” we carry into adulthood. We don’t choose these patterns; we inherit them through observation, repetition, and survival.